Yes, I am blogging again after reading an article from Cleo magazine. The title of the eye-catching article is ‘Is it time to dump him?’
The subtitle reads ‘Once some guys go off the boil, the heat is gone forever. Can you tell when it’s time to move on?‘
What an interesting article. I reckon that you get hold of November’s Cleo magazine. Oh wait, it’s already 1st December tomorrow. Fear not, I am sure many of your female pals will keep a copy of Cleo. If not, you can browse them in most of the hair saloons in town.
There are some tips that I can share with you if you are anxious to know what’s over and out. You know your relationship is past its use-by date when you:-
- Make excuses for why he can’t come over because you would rather curl up with a good DVD than spending time with your boyfriend.
- Feel embarrassed, annoyed, insecure or plain bored in his company more often than he makes you feel totally captivated or in love
- Struggle to find things to talk about over dinner.
- Start screening your calls because you simply don’t feel like talking to him.
- Find yourself constantly bitching to your girlfriends about him.
- Realize that being around him lowers your mood, self-esteem or enjoyment of going out.
- Keep coming up with excuses why you don’t wanna be that intimate (read: make love).
- Discover that the more you get to know him the less you like him.
- Don’t want to come out with your friends if he’s coming because he has no social skills or gets jealous easily when you blink in the direction of another guy.
- Spend every waking moment feeling totally insecure about how he feels about you, whether you can trust him and whether you’re good enough for him.
- Want to change everything about him – from his clothes to the way he slurps his coffee.
(Cleo, Nov 2009)
Well, this is the realistic world, like it or not. Relationships sometimes hit a rough patch and it takes lots of love and staying power to work through the problems. In times like these, you may slip into a rut and need to shake both parties out of complacency by ensuring that you communicate more and have fun together.
Nevertheless, there are some signs that you should take notice when a relationship has lost its mojo for good. If your current romance is suffering from such symptoms, the author suggests that it’s time to dump your boyfriend and find a man who will treat you right.
But before you break the seal, I suggest you think repeatedly that why both of you fall in love in the first place. Is it worthwhile to break up without working hard to close the widened gap in between? Is there any more hope and turning point? Only you will know. No one can tell you what you should do or what you can do. You will know whether it’s worth to save it or to break it.