I intended to type this on our wedding anniversary date but we have been consumed by life, as usual.
What is it like to be married after 5 years?
One word: SPECTACULAR!
Well, we have our ups and downs, for sure. And, there is no other man I would rather be with.
No, he is not perfect. However, he is beautifully imperfect and he completes me (my world) in every way. Deep within our hearts, I know we can conquer anything together with God’s guidance.
One thing I have learned about marriage is to die to self. There is no such thing as an easy marriage. Both husband and wife have to work all things out together, hand in hand, and prioritizing each other’s needs at all times.
Have you heard about the 5 love languages? Each of us has different needs and each of us has different love languages.
The 5 love languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch.
During this current season of being a mom of young ones, acts of service and quality time are my highest needs, while my husband appreciates quality time and physical touch. You can click here to discover what your love language is.
Recently I attended a little session about marriage and it talked about the foundational laws of marriage. I think we can all agree to these below.
- Priority – I am willing to sacrifice for my spouse. I spend significant amounts of time with my spouse. I aggressively seek to “be there” for my spouse emotionally and physically. I am positive and affirming, showing interest in my spouse’s wants and needs.
- Pursuit – I work at my marriage. I pursue my spouse every day of our lives.
- Possession – I do not dominate my spouse. We are co-owners and co-administers of everything in our lives. Everything I have, including my body, belongs to my spouse.
- Purity – I will keep my marriage pure. When I fail, I will repent and ask forgiveness and I will work to restore trust to the relationship.
On another note, LOVE.. Love is the most important essence to an everlasting marriage. We aren’t talking about falling in and out of love (emotions).
To love is to give. To love is to extend grace and kindness. To love is to share everything with each other.
To love is to honor. To love is to display hope on each other. To love is to forgive and let God heal.
To love is to stay committed to one another. To love is to respect one another.
So, yes, keep on loving. Keep on loving your other half. And most importantly, do not cease praying for your spouse.
And I will look forward to our next wedding anniversary each year.